Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
So my car randomly got a flat tire overnight, I have an unexplainable pain that shoots up randomly on my right side and has done so since Sunday, I’m about two weeks behind in schoolwork, money is currently running on empty, our laundry machine is broken, and on top of it all I’m having wild emotional swings about this guy.
But we had an opera orchestra rehearsal that Dawn was at, and when I was up there singing, I looked over to see her smiling and I forgot all of my stressors for a moment. I forget so often that I have this opportunity to make beautiful and meaningful new music with the support of Dawn and Kayo and Lorraine, and when I have moments like the one tonight that remind me of my fortune, tears start to well up in my eyes. I can succeed at this. And in some degree I already have. I just have to hold those things that keep me going close to my mind, and let the rest hole up somewhere else in my consciousness or whatever.
short list of actors who have not won an oscar:
- james dean
- johnny depp
- brad pitt
- helena bonham carter
- robert downey jr
- glenn close
- will smith
- samuel l jackson
- liam neeson
- sigourney weaver
- tom cruise
- julianne moore
- ralph fiennes
- laura linney
- ed harris
- gary oldman
now will you please for the love of christ shut up about leonardo dicaprio
I haven’t had an actual sleepless night in a really long time. It really sucks and the reason why I had it sucks even more. I feel inadequate and really shitty and tired of holding back & guessing at what’s going on with us.
But I have to keep living this way until the opera is over so that any potential ruining I can do will create minimal awkwardness. But I hate that I have to wait. I die a little every day I do.